I am trying to figure out what I am doing wrong here as far as my images are concerned. Strange as I am not having trouble on my other blog. If this picture uploads properly, you will now bw able to see one of our profile pictures. If not....well, I need to figure out WHO I need to fuck to fix this damn thing for me..LMAO.....
Today we are going to discuss choosing a profile picure. This seems to be a very difficult process for some people. I am making a blonde attempt to upload one of ours with this post.
Your profile picture is very important because it is the FIRST thing that anyone is going to notice. There are two huge mistakes that people make and either one will lower your chances of meeting someone in real life significantly.
1. The biggest mistake that you can make is choosing NOT to use a profile picture at all. When Jenna and I are searching for potential playmates, we do not even glance at a profile with no picture. I do understand the need for discretion on a sex/swinger site, but I suggest that instead of having NO picture that you get creative.
Adult Friend Finder, the site that we are most active on, claims that women prefer face pictures. Jenna and I request in our profile that a face picture be sent with an e-mail if the sender would like us to read it. We do understand that for personal reasons, many people do not want to put a face picture in their profile. That is why we ask for one.
I now use a color bar over my eyes to partially hide my face, although I didn't used to do this. I decided that since we have young children, it was the right thing to do. Jenna had never shown her face on the website for professional reasons, but we have still managed to take some really hot photos. It just takes a little imagination.
2. Before I go into anymore detail about choosing a profile picture, let me tell you what the second biggest mistake you can make would be. Do not, I repeat DO NOT take a close up of your junk and use it as your main picture. Most women hate it and your picture will just be one more hard cock in an endless sea of penises that we see everyday on the site. If you feel the need to display a photo of your glorious manhood, there is plenty of room inside your profile to do so.
My advice after looking at millions of profile pics over the years? Use a face picture if you can. If that makes you uncomfortable, you can always use a full body pic and use photoshop to blur your face. Women like body pictures. We love chest and ab pics. Booty pictures are among my favorites. Most girls like a nice ass! Try to think of what most people or what you think is your best attribute and use it. Beautiful eyes? Use them. Great smile? Use it. Get creative. It may take some thought, but you can do it. ( Girls, just use a photo of your cleavage, men are easy..LMAO )
Remember, men out number the women on these sites. Women can be and are choosy. You have to make yourself stand out from the rest of the pack.
And Fer Fuck's Sake, use recent pictures. If you use those college pics where you looked like an Adonis and you show up for our date and have a big beer gut, chances are we'll notice. *DUH* You can forget getting laid because by misrepresenting yourself, you lied, which will just make a woman wonder what else you have lied about. Chances are she will no longer trust you.
Coming soon....filling out your profile.
Your profile on a sex/swinging or even dating site is the single most important factor that will determine how willing other people are to get to know you. Jenna and I are popular on AFF as determined by how many views our profile receives. We are contacted by numerous people every single day. ( It is the lesbian thing, but hey, it works for us! ) My point is that we have a basically unlimited number of partners to choose from and I want to share with you some of the things that get our attention in a potential playmate and some things that do not.
Let us start with one Golden Rule. ALWAYS BE HONEST WHEN FILLING OUT YOUR PROFILE!
Let us also start with one Never Forget Tip. NOT EVERYBODY IS HONEST WHEN FILLING OUT THEIR PROFILE.
Honesty really is the best policy in this situation. Lies and misleading information will only get you so far. Those who have been on the site for a while learn how to tell the truth from the bullshit. Most "newbies" fall for quite a bit of crap and learn the hard way that there are many people on sex sites that are just there to play games. We had to learn this lesson and you probably will as well, but there are sincere people that really just want to hook up for sex. You just have to learn how to find them.
Another reason for honesty is because all lies come out eventually. Even is it is something that you consider a "little white lie" it is apt to make potential partners wonder what other lies you have told. The internet is full of weirdos and Jenna and I hold honesty in high regard. If we catch a potential playmate, or even someone that we have already had sex with, in a lie, then we are no longer interested in that person.
It can be brutal for single men on sex sites, so if you are a man, it is very important that you represent yourself as somebody worth meeting. The men out number the women tremendously, and therefore, the women have many other men to choose from. Honesty is a way to start out on the right foot.
Coming next....Your Profile Picture
The first thing you will need to do is to pick a site to join. Jenna and I are very active on
http://adultfriendfinder.com/go/g944018-ppc
Adult Friend Finder is the world's largest sex and swinger's site and we have had a lot of luck meeting playmates on the site. It is free to join, however, standard membership is very limited, especially for single men. While there is nothing wrong with signing up as a standard member, I wouls honestly recommend at least a trial silver or gold membership to get the most enjoyment out of the site. It will also give you mant more oppourtunities to actually contact and meet people.
You will need a valid e-mail addy to join. We have a seperate e-mail account for our dealings with this site. They will send you newsletters and lists of new members that match what you are seeking according to your profile. Yahoo is easy to get a free e-mail account with and suffices for this purpose.
You will need to pick a username, which is extremely important , because in many ways it is like making a first impression. You should give much thought to what you want your username....your first impression...to be. My advice is to pick something unique, but to stay away from "porn star" names. Remember, especially when it comes to meeting women, that even though they are on a sex site, most of them still want to be treated like ladies....at least at first. If you pick a crude username like "SUCKMYCOCKBITCH" chances are you are not going to make a good first impression.
Coming next: Your profile.
